Grief a place of loss and sadness.
It has so many different emotions attached to it. Grief can be physical, behavioural, social, spiritual … it comes with so many different dimensions.
How do we grieve?
Well, as with everything else, when it comes to loss we are all different. It depends on the connection you had with the person you’ve lost, but also where you are in life and the events leading up to that point.
I lost my nan this week after a six-week stint in hospital. It was hard during the time when we couldn’t see her and keep her spirits up, but during the last week we could visit and that helped. She had always been one of my favourite people. She knew how to say just the right thing and to offer a hug when needed, or ice cream.
Remembering the good times
As I have got older I have begun to see loss beyond the sadness it can bring. I am well aware of my fluctuating emotions, but I am even more aware of the memories of my nan and of knowing that she taught me so much. I have continued to ask myself what I learnt from her, because it has supported who I have become over the last 40 years. From the knowledge of nature to the love of a good crossword, but, more than anything, the fun and mischief.
Many have lost loved ones and that can have its heaviness, but the lightness comes from the learnings and the ability to tap into all that was good about that relationship and the parts that ultimately make you smile.
Grief is a process, and it affects people in different ways. It can reveal itself in constant reminders or in an odd wobbly day. We all work differently.
If you’re struggling to overcome grief, loss and sadness, clinical hypnotherapy can really help support the process and help you see things more clearly.